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Father of son who overdosed: 'If you're big enough for drugs, you're big enough to call 9-1-1'

Posted: August 18, 2014 - 3:52pm

Just about everybody in town has seen or heard of Ken Ashley-Pauley standing on the corner of College and Donaghey holding his sign. 

His son overdosed earlier this year on a mixture of drugs including Xanax and cough syrup in the old, blue rent house across the street. By the time one of the college students who rented the house thought to take him a few hundred yards down the street to the hospital it was too late.

Twenty-year-old Josh Ashley-Pauley was unconscious on the couch for hours, “snoring funny,” his dad said. Ken knows what happened based what the renters of the house — ostensibly his son’s friends — told him about the last hours of his son’s life.

The renters of the house knew what he’d taken. He’d eaten lunch with them at the barbeque restaurant across the street, and it was obvious from his behavior at the restaurant that he was in trouble, Ken said. After an uncomfortable last meal, his son passed out on a couch in the blue rent house. While he was unconscious, one of his friends drew a crude shape on his face and put a video on the internet.

“His words to me were, ‘That’s what we do. It’s funny,’” Ken said on Monday.

But Josh wasn’t sleeping one off; he was dying. It was all fun and games until he stopped breathing.

One of the renters eventually took Josh to the hospital, but the damage was irreversible.

Ken started holding the sign on the streetcorner to spread a few messages. One of them was to shame the young men who let his son die on their couch. That’s worked. The renters have moved out and the blue rent house is empty these days.

Ken has known the renters for years. “At some point, I hope that those two young men can come stand with me and make some sort of an educational documentary about what happened to my son,” he said.

The message that he’s also trying to get out to the several hundred college students that drive by the corner of College and Donaghey every day now that the summer break’s ended is this: If drugs are going to be part of theirs or their friends’ lives, they have to understand that the habit might kill them, he said, and act accordingly. 

“They need to step up when people are in trouble, and if your going to be big enough to party like that, you’ve got to be big enough to make 9-1-1 part of that lifestyle,” he said.

If the tenants of the blue rent house didn’t recognize the seriousness of someone passed out after abusing heavy narcotics, hopefully the next tenants will, if there are any. Hopefully the rest of the students in town will too.

Ken will be meeting with Hendrix College faculty this week to talk about possibly speaking to the incoming class next month, and he’s looking into what it might take to see the blue rent house property turned into a greenspace park. 

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Skyler
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Skyler 08/19/14 - 10:50 am
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His son died In February

At first I accepted what Ken was doing as a sign of grief, but now it's clear that the only person he is shaming is himself. He is acting like a disgrace. His son's image has been permanently marred by his poor actions.

His son was taken to a hospital as soon as it was realized he was not breathing. The ER is just a block away, so calling 911 would have actually taken longer. The coroner stated that he took so many drugs (suicide), that his survival is pure speculation. Even if he arrived hours earlier, he would likely still be dead.

This father is acting pathetically and his actions should not be encouraged through media. He has 3 other children that are living, but wastes his hours holding a sign trying to bring shame to his dead son's best friends. These kids have gone through enough.

This man is a disgrace.

Igor Rabinowitz
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Igor Rabinowitz 08/19/14 - 11:07 am
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Disagree

I can't imagine the pain the Dad's going through losing his son like that. For him to step out of his pain and make a public act, warning other kids of the dangers of the "Party LOL" lifestyle, I gotta' give the guy props, mad props.

Your assessment is overly harsh and uncalled for.

Skyler
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Skyler 08/19/14 - 12:47 pm
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Please stop encouraging this

Please stop encouraging this man and let his son rest in peace.

Have you even been following the story? This man is not trying to make a point to the youth of today. He is publicly trying to shame his son's friends. They have gone through enough, and they don't need a spiteful man holding an angry sign outside their house.

Igor Rabinowitz
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Igor Rabinowitz 08/20/14 - 07:13 am
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It's a fundamental skill

You might want to read the story we're posting against as to why he's still out there, even after the tenements moved out of the house.

Lighten up, you should do that as well.

justoffcenter
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justoffcenter 08/19/14 - 02:21 pm
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Sorry for you

Dumb statement on your part.

ARBEAR
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ARBEAR 08/19/14 - 11:01 am
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Shame on you.

Skyler, you are a disgrace.

Skyler
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Skyler 08/19/14 - 12:43 pm
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justwantdanews
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justwantdanews 08/19/14 - 01:11 pm
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Get over it?

I'm going to guess that Skyler is one of the stoner friends (if they can be called friends) or some way related to the guilty parties, that was involved in the incident. No parent just gets over the loss of their child, especially when the death was very preventable. There is no time limit on grief. To bash him and say his is pathetic is really sad. I applaud his efforts. Hopefully his plea will make someone else think twice next time they decide to party hard and get high.

Bad boy
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Bad boy 08/19/14 - 01:21 pm
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No stoner.

I'm not your stoner. I think maybe I'll stand across the street with a sign that says. If you look like the father across the street you might be a poor parent. His son was a dope user. I'd look into that and not loose another child instead showing how big a fool he is. Shame on this poor example of fatherhood. It's to late to try to look good now.

justoffcenter
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justoffcenter 08/19/14 - 02:26 pm
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Also a dumb statement

You have no idea.

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