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Conway father uses 'public shaming' to educate about drug use

Posted: July 22, 2014 - 11:07pm

It’s an in-your-face sign that’s turning heads near the University of Central Arkansas campus. The sign is being held by a father in mourning, calling out kids who he said could have saved his son from overdosing on prescription drugs. 

Ken Ashley-Pauley stands alone with his sign at the corner of Donaghey and College Avenues in Conway. The sign reads, “My son died in [the] house across [the] street (Wet House). Mark Murphy, why no 911 call, no police call, hospital one block away.” 

“This is raw and it is in your face,” commented Ashley-Pauley, regarding the content of his cardboard sign. “But my son being dead – that’s in my face and that’s raw.” 

His son, Josh Ashley-Pauley, 20, died of an apparent drug overdose. Ashley-Pauley said his son died in the “Wet House”. According to him, his son’s childhood friends were “taking care of him” and brought him to the “Wet House” passed out. They drew graphic images on his face, even took a video while he was supposedly passed out. 

“I asked them why would you do a video like that,” questioned Ashley-Pauley. “He said, ‘It’s what we do – it was funny. Anytime anyone gets drunk and passes out we do it.’” 

But Ashley-Pauley wasn’t actually passed out – he had already died. Conway Regional Hospital was right down the block from the house. 

“I can run down there in 20 seconds,” lamented Ashley-Pauley. 

Instead his friends allegedly took Josh Ashley-Pauley to the hospital after he had died. A grieving father said just a simple phone call could have saved his son’s life. 

“Nobody called 9-1-1, nobody called police,” cried Ashley-Pauley. 

Now the father said he’ll continue to walk the busy intersection near the “Wet House” until passersby and those inside the house get the message. 

“We can’t bring Josh back,” said Ashley-Pauley. “But all we want to do is start educating these kids.” 

The people who live inside the “Wet House” put out their own sign in response to Ashley-Pauley. It reads, “Josh wouldn’t want this. RIP – gone but never forgotten.” 

Ashley-Pauley believes his son’s friends may have been scared to call 911, possibly being intoxicated as well. Conway & UCA PD both encourage kids to call 911 in instances like those – regardless of their own level of intoxication.

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Jollymusician
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Jollymusician 07/23/14 - 08:35 am
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justoffcenter
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justoffcenter 07/23/14 - 11:07 am
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Kids

It is a regrettable situation, so very sad. I have known the family for almost twenty years, prayers my friend. Keep up the good work in bring light to this subject.

Call 911 or seek uninhibited guidance in every instance someone passes out due to drugs. Almost all of us have passed out from something, all of us were close to the edge.

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Hope Rice 07/23/14 - 01:59 pm
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Good for you, Dad

If I were a resident of Conway, I would gladly assist this father in his attempt to put these kids on notice for contempt. We have for too long protected the problem of drug abuse with more effort than we have as a community to protect our children. Because of our pride, embarrassment and trying to portray a clean and tidy image we have lost so many young people or have allowed their addictions to be kept in the closet. This is true with our neighborhoods, our schools and our churches. Again, the "E" word has allowed the stigma associated with addiction to hinder the early intervention and treatment that might prevent another tragedy. Sunlight is a wonderful disinfectant and if you SEE SOMETHING, for goodness sake, SAY SOMETHING! Addiction knows no zip code. Good for you, Dad. You are displaying more courage than those who remain silent!

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frego 07/24/14 - 12:42 am
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Tragedy

Some remain silent out of respect for Josh and his family. I can only imagine the pain Josh's family feels. The other young men loved Josh and would have done nothing to intentionally bring harm to him. In saying that the young men involved should have called for help...you are expecting rational well thought out actions from YOUNG men who were probably taking the same intoxicating inebriating substances that took Josh's life. They did try to get help in what they felt was the best way possible...by taking him to the hospital...albeit to late. We ALL do stupid things when are young and feel invincible, some with horrific consequences. I assure you the young men are forever changed by that afternoon with or without a "public shaming". I hope it brings this father the peace he is looking for.

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caution 07/24/14 - 10:15 am
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SEE SOMETHING. SAY SOMETHING

What makes you think the other young men would have done nothing to bring harm to Josh? Apparently, we have failed miserably to educate our youth about the harm drugs cause, not only for the victims, but for the families as well. That pain is paramount to the tarnished reputation our kids may suffer because it became public knowledge that they were involved with drugs. Reputations can be regained, but the loss of a child can not. Just remember today's newspaper will be lining someone's birdcage tomorrow. That is how foolish it is to allow what "they" will think when the main object should be to intervene as early as you can before tragedies like this occur. See Something, Say Something!
Hope McK Rice

reader
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reader 07/24/14 - 08:50 am
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I hope the father

owns that fraternity house when it's all over and can have it bulldozed. UCA should act immediately to revoke it's charter and close the fraternity permanently on the UCA campus.

T_Hutson
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T_Hutson 07/24/14 - 08:59 am
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What???

It's not a "frat house"....This is a ridiculous uninformed comment. Some of the boys aren't even enrolled in college

ConwayDweller
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ConwayDweller 07/24/14 - 01:43 pm
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Not currently greek

I don't think this house is greek. It may have been in the past (I could have sworn I saw greek letters there at one time, but my memory isn't the greatest), but I think it's a general rent-house that college kids have simply been using for cheap housing for a few years.

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Elmer Fudd 07/24/14 - 02:04 pm
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agree it did have Greek letters up at one time however I can not recall which Frat it was. Sometimers you know.

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reader 07/25/14 - 09:39 am
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Thanks for the information in the comments above

I still hope the parents sue and own the house when its over.

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