I should've loaned the lady in front of me at the grocery store $1.
I've done it before but this time something stopped me. I judged her need based on her purchases.
We were in my favorite 10 items or less lane that ended up being an express lane to three days of guilt.
She put the purchases on an EBT card but didn't have enough money to pay for the things that weren't eligible to go on the card.
toilet paper $2
cinnamon candle $3
bulk beef $8
frozen vegetables $2
paper towels $2
When she and the cashier realized she was short by $1 on the difference, I looked away as if distracted by the Altoids display.
She went out to her car to look for $1 between the seats and the cashier apologized for the delay. I commented that I guess I could've given her a dollar, as if the thought had just occured to me. Then the lady in line behind me verbalized my thoughts, "Well, we're paying for all of it anyway."
I spent a few childhood years eating beans and cornbread and thinking paper towels and gasoline were luxuries. Why that make me think I can judge someone else's needs, I don't know. Regardless, right now, I wish I would've just given her the dollar. It would've saved her a little embarrassment and saved me from the guilt.