Researching online dating

I always thought the hard part came after the first few dates, about when the relationship started. 

This isn't everyone's experience, especially those who are single after 25 and find their dating pool has become kiddie-sized.

There are tremendous hurdles to get through in order to find yourself seated and sharing a meal with someone who equally wants to watch you eat as you tolerate watching them.

Both parties have to be undisgusted by the other's dinner etiquette, attracted to the other's physical form and interested enough in what the other is saying to have conversation that flows evenly and without force, avoiding unwanted silence. 

For many, it's a lot of work to get to this point. They're looking for help and finding it online. 

Match.com, eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, and Christian Mingle are the main sites I've talked to people about in researching. 

It sounds wild out there. 

As I'm hearing everyone's experiences, I'm imaging the online dating world as a football field sized arena of bumper cars.

Most are aimlessly bumbling around, hoping to bump into someone they like. 

The buzz of electricity overhead is the force of attraction. 

Some of the cars you'd want to bump into and get near, and others are overflowing with cats. 

A sporty red bumper car with a hot blonde driver zooms by, 60 cars on her tail. She has her pick of them all.

You can hear the drivers yelling at each other over the noise. 

"Are you pro life?!"

"What diseases run in your family?!"

"Do you have children?!"

"Do you like cats?!"

"How many cats are too many cats?!"

"Do you like my cats?!!"

If your relationship does get wheels and you leave the arena, that's when things seem to get even more complicated. 

For instance, potentially spending the rest of your time on Earth with someone and blending your life with theirs, right down to sharing a shower loofa, seems to have infinite complications.  

But we do it anyway, don't we.

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Damon Poole
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Damon Poole 02/11/14 - 04:35 pm
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It's a money pit..more than anything.

You also have to be desperate enough to pay $50 or more a month to subscribe to these things and there's never ever any guarantee that the one that shows up is Mr. or Ms. Right. That's what those ads with Natalie Cole singing in the background don't tell you.

Been there, done that, waste of money.

Courtney Spradlin
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Courtney Spradlin 02/11/14 - 04:46 pm
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What about the free sites?

What about the free sites? I'm seeing that OKCupid and Plenty of Fish are free.

conwaygerl
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conwaygerl 02/11/14 - 05:24 pm
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free sites

are just full of married people looking to cheat

ucantbserious
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ucantbserious 02/11/14 - 05:34 pm
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Hmm

I'm not in the market but I'm intrigued by all the commercials for farmersonly.com

Diogenes
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Diogenes 02/11/14 - 10:53 pm
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Seeking 50 year old female

Must have Angus bull, tractor, hay tedder and large round bailer. Please send pictures of Angus bull and bailer.

Courtney Spradlin
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Courtney Spradlin 02/12/14 - 12:00 pm
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I checked it out, and now I

I checked it out, and now I am extremely intrigued.

'I'm really lonely but I'm too busy to date during harvest season.'
'Thousands of singles sow the seeds of love on FarmersOnly.com.'

arkansasobserver
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arkansasobserver 02/11/14 - 08:00 pm
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City folks

"... Just don't get it!"

conwayville
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conwayville 02/11/14 - 10:53 pm
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Nobody

Gets it. At least none of the previous responses. There is some truth to each response, so far, however nothing is 100% true (yet).

Online dating is exactly like meeting at a bar, or club, or whatever. You know what you want, and you have to weed through the losers to get there. And there are PLENTY of losers. Is that a dating site (plentyoflosers.com)?

It's quite easy to get discouraged! You'll meet friends. You'll meet people you want NOTHING to do with ever again. You'll meet people who want you dead, and those who worship your every move. And then you'll meet those who want multiple partners and some that don't want a partner at all..just someone to talk to. And then there's those who are afraid to meet you, but they like the person who they're talking to on the other end of the phone. Or the ones who are still married, but wanna hang out with you with intentions of something more after the divorce is finalized. And hundreds of other different kinds. Models. Trash. Crankheads. Alcoholics. 10 or 15 kids. No kids. Aliens, And everything in between. And I think I've met every one of them.

There's big money in online dating. Not that I've made or spent a single dime, ever.

conwaygerl
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conwaygerl 02/12/14 - 08:22 am
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Models?

Hahahahahahahahahahaha

ucantbserious
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ucantbserious 02/12/14 - 11:51 am
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Hmm

They meant to say 'model railroaders'.

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